The CoronaVirus has taken the world by storm, and its effects have forever changed the world. Thousands of people have died, and the world is watching as more facts and details about the virus become available. Since the disease is highly contagious, authorities are asking families to stay together and avoid crowds. Apart from that, all non-essential businesses are being closed. That being the case, children are staying home from school, and many couples are also at home together. Some might think that all of this together-time would help a family to grow closer together, but some of the news reports are disheartening. According to reports, a disturbing amount of couples have made inquiries to divorce lawyers. According to lawyers, couples are realizing that they don’t like being around each other, and they no longer have much in common.
Marriage Killers during Isolation
There are certain behaviors that can kill a relationship. These are behaviors that may only be annoying when two people are not around each other much, but negative behavior and treatment is magnified when a couple is spending everyday together. Negative talk, ignoring, blaming and shaming can kill a marriage. This is especially true when tensions and stress are high because of income loss and the threat of disease. Apart from that, when a couple creates distance in their marriage by ignoring each other, it causes one partner to feel alone and angry. When couples feel a distance in their relationship, they end up feeling like they no longer have anything in common. That lonely feeling can make a couple feel like they need to seperate. For some couples, the situation may seem dire, but in spite of COVID, there are things that a couple can do to stay united. In the following article, we will explore some different solutions.
Talk Kindly about Finances
Since a large number of families are losing all or part of their incomes, it is important for couples to talk regularly about finances. This should not be a heated discussion where each person is putting the blame on the other. It should be a discussion that is kind and understanding. It is wise for couples to make a budget for the family and to make sure that they strictly follow that budget. If needed, they may also need to call creditors in order to get deferred payment or other payment plans. Make it a rule that there will be no blaming, shaming or arguing in the finance discussions, and these discussions should be held monthly or even weekly. Money issues can cause huge problems in marriages, so don’t take finance problems lightly.
Find Work Online or Make a Job
If you and your partner are both not working, look for online work. There are plenty of jobs online that can be done. These jobs may not compare to the salary that you were making at your previous job, but if you can do something, it will make you and your spouse feel better, and it can be money for groceries.
Stick To a Schedule
Schedules can keep a family organized and it can also keep them on task. This is especially true if there are children at home. Each member of the family should have a task for every day. This means that all kids have a learning schedule for each day. This could be homework assigned from school, or mom and dad can take on the role of the teacher in order for kids to keep learning at home. Apart from that, it is wise to take time out to eat meals together each day and also schedule time to do fun things during the day like a project or a game. When a couple has a schedule that they stick to, they feel organized and structured; this also keeps them busy and fulfilled.
Your Marriage is Your Job
Couples are not used to spending time together because of work, family and friends. When all of those elements are taken away, a couple can feel like they are trapped together. In reality, this time together can be a blessing. When couples prioritize kindness, understanding, family and love, they will be able to take advantage of this time together. Even though COVID19 has totally changed the time dynamic of many people’s lives, conscientious couples do well to use their time together to improve themselves and their relationships. No one else has as much stock in your marriage as you and your partner, so you do well to take steps to keep your marriage intact during this difficult time.